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lokiperfection replied to your post “suziejimenez replied to your post “Grabbing a stranger’s ass, just…”
The amount of crazy shit that his fans do is pathetic! And the girl who did it is wondering why she is getting hate, not that I condone people sending it but you just don’t touch people without their permission!
Exactly. You don’t grab strangers and you don’t sent hate. Both is wrong and I hope people realise it and don’t condone either. A heads up and trying to explain why it is wrong and calling people out on their bad behaviour in private is justified though in my opinion.
There are people who don’t know boundaries everywhere and it isn’t only in this fandom. Somehow it just seems more apparent.
There are times when I absolutely love being a fangirl. I love the community and the relationship the celebrated have with their fans (like we’re slightly odd, kinda cute puppies) and the feeling of having something you love so much be a part of you. But sometimes, I hate being a fangirl because, quite frankly, I’m ashamed. Today is one of those days. I found out that there is a girl going around bragging about grabbing Tom Hiddleston’s ass and people are encouraging her and I am ashamed that something so … offensive is being celebrated in the name of “fandom”.
I’m not even going to get into the story (“He was staring at my boobs, I grabbed his ass, he flirted with me” etc) which, to be honest, sounds a lot like some very popular bits of fanfiction out there. It’s really beside the point. The fact of the matter is, no matter if you thought he might have been staring at your breasts, it is never okay to grab the ass of someone you have known for 1 minute. (That’s not even getting into the fangirl dynamic of it - the fact that by the very nature of being a fan, she has spent significant amounts of time admiring him while he didn’t know she existed … when you throw in the ass part, suddenly a fan/artist relationship gets kinda creepy …)
Now, some people defending her have said that those criticizing this behavior don’t know Tom, so they can’t possibly say he wouldn’t have wanted this to happen. THAT. That right there is the point. It doesn’t matter that I don’t think Tom, who has been harassed by fans since Coriolanus, would appreciate a “close encounter” with a fan. I don’t know him. None of y’all know him. None of us know him. And you certainly cannot get to know him after a 1 minute encounter! So if I can’t know that he wouldn’t want it, you can’t know that he would … and that’s the only reason you need to stay out of his “bubble”!
So no. You do not have “balls” for invading someone’s personal space because they might have given you a signal. Public niceties are there for a reason and the boundaries are doubly important between fan and artist because of the disastrous consequences that can occur when those boundaries are trampled on (e.g. artist wanting to stay away from fans, fans becoming too ashamed to be fans, etc).
I mean, come on. If we learned nothing else from the Robin Thicke fiasco, didn’t we at least learn that "I know you want it" is never an acceptable reason for invading someone
suziejimenez replied to your post “Grabbing a stranger’s ass, just because you want to. Really?”
I see you saw the post that’s been circling around too. Gods, this is just awful. I feel bad for him. :/
Yeah. It really doesn’t matter though, who it is about. It should be clear, that you can’t just grope a stranger. No matter who you are and no matter who they are.